It amazes me how individuals who are truly malignant can continue to harm us even after we have tried to cut them out of our lives. It is also shameful that a family would bury themselves so firmly in denial as to risk the health of their grandchildren. Most of you know about the damage my ex has caused me physically and emotionally. What you may not know is how year after year I have tried to maintain a relationship with his family only to be hurt even worse by them. It came to me last night, they have been
re-victimizing me for years. They have been holding me accountable for his sins and their failures by punishing me emotionally, manipulating me emotionally to hide his crimes. When I was asked NOT to testify against him because it would hurt the family I laughed. I finally got it. They don't care about me at all. They only see me as a piece to keep in check so I won't give anyone the lengthy catalog of crimes he has committed. They are asking ME - the VICTIM - to help him. What's more and this is really sick - they don't care about him either - they just don't want the neighbors to know what kind of monster they raised.
I am so sorry to hear that. Yes, people shift the blame to help themselves feel better at night. I believe they also kept abusing you to have someone to blame and ... it's horrible. I hope you know you are better than them. You are loved. DO not forget it.
ReplyDeleteDon't let them get away with it. Speak the truth and shame the devil.
ReplyDeleteIt is all about looks now not about responsibility. I see it every day at work. I country will collapse soon hopefully we will come out stronger for it.
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