So I'm watching DS9 and Quark offers the doctor a night in the holosuite. It then occurs to me that I have never really given much thought to what my pursuits would be if I was given such an offer. What would it be? Where and When would go? I think such an exercise of creation would be beneficial and practical really. I don't think women really spend much time exploring what really turns them on. We accept that we are supposed to be turned on by men (or women), enjoy their touch and their scents but I would guess that few sexual interactions have been judged by what we hold inside - our secret desires. Perhaps every woman (or men too) should take a few moments and jot down on a piece of paper what their ideal seduction would entail. I for one would have in the past where the language was sweeter and the buildup longer and more satisfying. Setting is important too. In my holosuite I would be outside, exposed to the sky and earth but isolated so I fear no intrusions. (or extra eyes) Stopping with these few lines you can decipher many things about my sexual nature.
1. I need more romance. The slower nature of the "courtship" is really a hunger for intimacy and flair.
2. I have a longing to feel free, less bedroom - more adventure.
3. No prying eyes - well I have no secret desire to watched.*
* This last statement is precisely what I'm getting at. If you are writing your perfect holosuite and a mob of men are watching while you are being ravished - your secret desires may entail exposure, excitement, a need to let go of control. This is often a reflection of your daily life. Those who are in control all the time often like a submission, a little exposure to offset those worries that bog them endlessly throughout the day.
Men often ask why women read Romance novels and scoff at the bodice ripping and throbbing members. But instead of jokes they should be paying attention. What most women really want can be found between the ridiculous covers of those books.
Romance novels are the closest thing we get to the Holosuite. Perhaps this is why Fifty Shades of Grey did so well despite the rather unimpressive writing style. Because every woman is different.
And women should write - write their desires down as they come across them if they aren't particularly good at expressing themselves verbally. What books turned me on? Interview with a Vampire was a big one - and for many different reasons but here are a few:
1. Louis - Louis was the artistic, human one. The one that was kind in his killing - regretful.
2. The coldness, the fear - the allure of death and then life eternal.
3. The warmth of the blood itself - the giving of life and sharing that deep crimson intimacy with someone.
But this might not be every woman's cup of tea.
Finding YOUR turn-on's and sharing it with your partner is vital for a healthy and lasting relationship.
I wish we had Holosuites - it would be proof that our society had moved to a point of comfortable self awareness. That desires and interests could be safely shared with others and with oneself with judgement or shame.
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